Is submission a gift? We think so.

Body Language
Body Language (Photo credit: gainesp2003)

BelasariusFor curvy_bottom and myself, submission is definitely a gift. The entire relationship depends on it.

After nearly two years of getting to know each other she did put flowers in her hair, kneel and tell me her submission was mine. But, it did take that long to establish that trust. And, in the three years since, that trust has increased and, willingly, she’s given me more.

There are things I wish I could do to her and I can’t – because she has not gifted them to me. These things are few and far between – but they exist. So, how can her submission be mine?

The best she can be – for me

It’s this. We are creating a life for ourselves where she strives to be the best she can be for me: Her submission, she says,  is her best sense of self expression.

Hang on – let me correct that: Our best sense of self-expression.

I express myself by using her gift of submission to bring the constantly new, constantly changing “my girl” into being. We create delight in each other.

We have both had BDSM relationships before. But before, her submission has been optional – hers to give and take back as she chose. We did not want that.

Thats is why – for us – it is vital that submission is her gift:

A gift is something given without expectation of reward. A gift is never taken back. A gift is given for the joy of it.

I ask for nothing. I take nothing not freely given. I cherish the gifts I am given – and use them as I see fit.

This I do for her.

She keeps only that with which she cannot yet trust me. I strive to be worthy of her next gift, because each one is harder. I desire to use what she has given wisely. Nothing can be given that can be used without responsibility.

We do these things to exalt each other.

Dominance – a gift?

My domination of her is not a gift. Or, no more a gift than the air we breathe. My domination is the tool we use to shape the gifts she gives. It is the storehouse for those gifts. It is the stone on which those gifts are sharpened. But it isn’t a gift: It is a given. It is absolute, with nothing of choice about it.

The only gift is her submission – anything given simply becomes part of the fabric of our life together – and my choice to use. Together we are building a gilded cage she is thrilled to inhabit.

It isn’t pure, of course, Thankfully it is tarnished by love.

Author: Belasarius

I possess the submission of curvy_bottom, we have a medium protocol, D/s relationship - based on the feeling that we are equa and opposite and that we love each other.

One thought on “Is submission a gift? We think so.”

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s News

The latest news on and the WordPress community.

The Pageist

One person's perversion is another's normality. --Julie Peakman

Magiksub's Blog

Smile! Soon…….

A dominant and submissive life

By Belasarius and curvy bottom, a British BDSM couple

Dispatches From Dystopia

"What man by worrying can add one cubit to his span of years?"


Our ordinary lives in an open marriage


"a dievca's World" --- exploring the sensual side of Fashion, Style, submission and Life.


The greatest aim to please Him!

Bondage Love

A place to discuss love, relationships, and sex!

Getting Little in the Middle

Info and experience diminishing waistlines with corsetry, by a corset professional and fanatic

The DD Side of Things

The ins and outs of my journey with my husband into our Domestic Discipline Lifestyle!

The Joyful Submissive

Everyone is either fucking everyone, fucking no one, or fucking just one. There there's me.

"Boys in Our Books"...

...we're keeping our name but expanding our offerings!

Submitted To Him

I'm Finally Surrendering...

Shamelessly Guiltless

“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” ~Oscar Wilde


BDSM, Dark Fantasy and Horror Stories by Venom

KinkyLittleGirl - On Abuse and BDSM

A compendium of resources and thoughts about abuse in the BDSM world, and a lot about abuse in general that is useful regardless of one's sexual preferences.


scream to god for death by drowning for one salt taste of the sea once more

A Dominants and submissives Rants & Raves

A Dominant & a submissive shares thoughts, personal stories & experiences.

%d bloggers like this: