I’m here to proclaim I’m a reclaimer. To be a slut is not always a bad thing.
The word is almost always used about women and almost always derogatively.
But google “I’m a slut for” and you get 308,000 results, many porn related but many just expressing an exuberant, uncontrolled enthusiasm for something non sexual and not related to untidiness or slatternly behaviour. And many are by men.
I’m glad it’s used this way – but I’m also glad to see it used freely and positively in a sexual sense (and that is what this post is about).
My girl sometimes describes herself as “my slut”: She means there are things she’ll do for me she won’t do anywhere else – and with a wanton enthusiasm that comes from wanting to do something for me. This sluttishness, when it happens, feels very special. It’s just for us.
Away from my relationship I don’t think I’d ever (without permission) call a person, especially a woman, a slut. It would be offensive. Current Wiki and dictionary definitions show this (below).
But I glory in people (and they are usually women) who proclaim themselves a slut. For anything – but especially for sexually related stuff. My experience of the proud slut is that she is independent, confident, glories in her sexuality and indulges her appetites guiltlessly.
What is wrong with “The Ethical Slut” proposition that a slut is:
a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you
Sluttishness seems an innocent thing to me.
If there is one downside it is that the proud female slut is often only behaving in a way that would be thought normal in a man. So, it is sexist.
But it’s also joyful and unconfined and is used as self description by women who don’t accept that being female forces any sort of lifestyle choice on them.
Long live the slut.
Slut – definitions
Related articles
- I’m A Slut, And Proud Of It (thoughtcatalog.com)
- Is a slut a slag? Dot Wordsworth adjudicates on Godfrey Bloom’s use of English (blogs.spectator.co.uk)
- Hi My Name Is (Insert Name Here) And I’m A Slut (shamelesslyguiltless.wordpress.com)
- In response to: “A Letter To A One-Night-Stand.” (cfpelletierwriter.wordpress.com)
- Why you should stop saying the word “slut” (collegian.com)
- Guidelines To Being A Slut (rockandrollsupermom.wordpress.com)
- The Ethical Slut (sexandbooks.co.uk)
A dominant and submissive life 
I agree. I feel that the word in derogatory context is all about taking power away from women. But what I don’t understand about the word and it’s use in society is that while girls who are called ‘sluts’ are thought of as beneath society or out of the ‘norm ‘ but as you said if you type the word into google results mostly porn where girls do and take part in things that others consider to be. ‘Slutty ‘ but yet these things are considered to be hot . So if these acts considered to be slutty and women who are involved with them are sluts then doesn’t that make then hot too ? Society is one confusing thing ..
Thank you for referring to my poem! This is a good article! I’m glad others feel the same as I do. =) Long live the slut! ;-D
Thanks – but just thought i ought to point out I’m a fella 🙂
Good to know! Lol.
This is a great article and I both love & agree with your premise!
Thank you – it’s been a suprisingly (IMO) popular post.
I think it resonates with women who are ladies and sluts simultaneously!
I completely agree with the opinion that a slut is not a girl who is nasty and sleeps around carelessly without caution but one who enjoys sex and pleasure and does not have a feeling of guilt about doing so because she is comfortable with her position and her suxuality and feels that if men can be accepting of it in other men then they should not only be accepting of it in women as well but be glad that there are women who are ok with and accepting of this as well.