On equality (from this thread on the old Informed Consent website):
Me and my girl are equal. No doubt.
There is huge respect between us. We value each other as people, we see the world through different eyes and argue our corners.
But we are opposite. And have found a way to make that oppositeness create energy and strength.
She submits. I don’t: She strives to please me. Pleasing me pleases her.
I adore her. I push, pull, mould her to make her more of herself – the self I see, that she has wanted to be all her life but has not had the chance to be.
Opposite – definitely.
Putting the other first – absolutely.
Both getting what we need? Indeed.