Slut!

aveburysarsenTNI’m here to proclaim I’m a reclaimer. To be a slut is not always a bad thing.

The word is almost always used about women and almost always derogatively.

But google “I’m a slut for” and you get 308,000 results, many porn related but many just expressing an exuberant, uncontrolled enthusiasm for something non sexual and not related to untidiness or slatternly behaviour. And many are by men.

I’m glad it’s used this way – but I’m also glad to see it used freely and positively in a sexual sense (and that is what this post is about).

My girl sometimes describes herself as “my slut”: She means there are things she’ll do for me she won’t do anywhere else – and with a wanton enthusiasm that comes from wanting to do something for me. This sluttishness, when it happens, feels very special. It’s just for us.

Away from my relationship I don’t think I’d ever (without permission) call a person, especially a woman, a slut. It would be offensive. Current Wiki and dictionary definitions show this (below).

But I glory in people (and they are usually women) who proclaim themselves a slut. For anything – but especially for sexually related stuff. My experience of the proud slut is that she is independent, confident, glories in her sexuality and indulges her appetites guiltlessly.

The Ethical Slut

What is wrong with “The Ethical Slut” proposition that a slut is:

a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you

Sluttishness seems an innocent thing to me.

If there is one downside it is that the proud female slut is often only behaving in a way that would be thought normal in a man. So, it is sexist.

But it’s also joyful and unconfined and is used as self description by women who don’t accept that being female forces any sort of lifestyle choice on them.

Long live the slut.

Slut – definitions

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