Blog and definition revised- 19 March 2013
I have stopped taking votes on the first proposed definition (please see below) today and have put forward a revised definition for people’s views.
At that time votes were as follows:
- I think this definition is accurate and appropriate – 76% (130 votes)
- I think this definition needs further work – 24% – 39 votes
- I think this definition is incorrect and/or inappropriate – 1% – I vote.
This is not a bad level of agreement, but I’d like to get something that is as widely agreed as possible. My suggestion, for voting and debate, is:
BDSM dynamic is a term for the roles consenting people adopt and the way they behave toward each other in the BDSM aspects of any relationship or scene.
Please vote on this using the poll below.
Original post and definitions,
BDSM dynamic is the way consenting people Interact within a BDSM relationship, scene or group
This definition has been prepared following discussion on this thread on the UK BDSM website, “Informed Consent“.
My original take on the word was this:
A Dynamic, in BDSM, is the term used to describe the limits to which a dominant and a submissive have given informed consent to the BDSM things that they do, either continuously or within any time limits they agree.
It developed the way it did primarily because people disagreed that a dynamic could only be between a dominant and a submissive person and because many saw “dynamic” as synonymous with relationship. It hasn’t been for me, I see the dynamic as being shorthand for the BDSM and D/s things we do that are part of our relationship, but feelings were strong and I am happy to take them on board.
Related articles
- Dominance in a BDSM relationship (belasarius.com)
- Definitions in general and submission in BDSM in particular (belasarius.com)
- Definitions – so what is a BDSM Slave? (belasarius.com)
- Consent and BDSM (houseofvoid.com)
- Differing dynamics: S/m, M/s and D/s (belasarius.com)
At the time of writing this has 151 votes and 21% say this definition needs further work…
I am going to try to propose an update soon – any thoughts or ideas would be very welcome.