It is probably selfish but I do sort of expect to be able to come wherever I want. Oral sex all the way wasn’t on offer at the beginning of our relationship and I am glad to say I was man enough not to get whiny about it: she just took the decision that putting her mouth on the menu was part of being the best she could be. For me.
Four years on she still doesn’t enjoy the act. But she does enjoy my moment of ecstasy in her mouth as a service to me and an achievement fo her When I choose that orifice I know I impose something she would rather not do, so it creates a moment of responsibility for me and a moment of genuine service for her.
So, on the whole, it is probably good for our dynamic that she doesn’t enjoy it.