For nearly a year I’ve run a simple poll asking whether dominants and submissives have special names for each other and when they use them.
I’ve closed the polls, really because I’ve got bored more than anything else. Here are the results.
(ie what do people call each other).
Submissives most frequent response was that they used a general, not a unique name for their partner, followed by using their partner’s given name. However, only around a quarter of the votes from submissives were for using their partner’s given name and just under half were for using a special name – just not an unique one.
Dominants reversed this order of priority, being more likely to use their partners’ given name rather than any special name.
(ie when do people use these names).
I asked people when they used their special names – if they had them. Nearly one in four dominants voted that they didn’t have a naming protocol whilst less than half that proportion of votes from submissives agreed with this.
Dominants were most likely not to have any form of naming protocol. This was the least common choice for submissives.
Setting aside those who didn’t have a naming protocol, The most common result, for both submissives and dominants, was to use a naming protocol when by themselves or at scene events. The second most common return for submissives was using special names only when alone together.
Not proper research
This is a self-selecting sample of people who have responded to this poll over eleven months. I did my best to prevent repeat voting. But:
- It’s a self selecting sample drawn from fetish/BDSM websites and Twitter.
- People could vote on any or all of the options – so one vote does not mean one person responding.
- There were 326 votes on the poll for dominants and 458 on the poll for submissives.
Thanks to all those who took part.
I’m still eagerly looking for participants in my US/UK BDSM and money survey. Absolutely anonymous – find it here.