My submissive took up yoga – and ultimately made it an important part of her life. We thought of it originally to enhance our enjoyment of bondage – it seemed a good way of improving suppleness to give us more play options. We had no idea that, over time, what it would really achieve, was mental stamina – her ability to tolerate all sorts of trussings for longer and longer improved enormously, and she put this down to mental focus.. and her ability to focus was unlocked by her yoga.
But, what I really want to write about today is the connection we discovered between yoga and submission. I’m not saying that one directly relates to and improves the other, but that a number of qualities that yoga, and meditation, seem to encourage the development of a strong and capable submissive personality.
Inner peace: It’s not always possible to be content with the decisions that have been made for you. Contemplation helps.
Self discipline: A fundamental and often overlooked quality of submission, I guess strongly related to “inner peace”: Strong self discipline eliminates laziness and encourages its possessor to strive always to improve.
As a footnote, I’d like to comment on fun. Several here have wondered whether the serious and intense nature of the relationship I was fortunate enough to experience meant it was not much fun. This is probably the most painful thing I’ve written to date: Gosh it was fun, it was joyous, mischievous, exciting, surprising and enormous fun. Two people had pledged themselves to design their entire lives to please the other. It was a game. A game played at Olympian standards – but still a game. A game where you had to know when not to smirk… But always a game. Maybe, apart from politics, the only game for grown-ups.
I am migrating my blog from UK BDSM website, Informed Consent (due to close in February 2013), to this, my private blog and also to the new community website it seems most likely that c_b and I will use going forward, Fetbook. This blog “The Rules We Lived By” was first published on Informed Consent on 6 April 2005. My private blog is belasarius.com