The Beauty Of Service (IC – 4 April 2005)

BelasariusI thought I’d write this blog, after seeing other, similar ones because, to me, “the beauty of service” is at the root of the relationship I enjoyed, and would be the core of anything I might be fortunate enough to enjoy in the future.

I feel helplessly inadequate in expressing my feelings here: But, for me, it is my role to adore, cherish and control someone, to thrill her by piloting us both on a journey that always has new and more challenging destinations.

My reward is the right to make her mine and to shape her as I want her. Fundamental to this is the respect that comes from service offered because it expresses her attachment to me – service offered joyously.

For me, the sexual side of D/s is a celebration of all this, and discipline & chastisement are tools

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we initially agree to use to help us achieve our joint objectives. Neither of these aspects are fundamental -they merely help us express our natures.

Re-reading this, it seems pseudish in the extreme, but I have no better words. I really want to know how others see this.

I am gradually migrating my blog from UK BDSM website, Informed Consent (due to close in February 2013), to this, my private blog and also to the new community website it seems most likely that c_b and I will use going forward, Fetbook. This blog “The Beauty of Service” was first published on Informed Consent on  4 April 2005. My private blog is

Author: Belasarius

I possess the submission of curvy_bottom, we have a medium protocol, D/s relationship - based on the feeling that we are equa and opposite and that we love each other.

2 thoughts on “The Beauty Of Service (IC – 4 April 2005)”

  1. This quote is lovely: “it is my role to adore, cherish and control someone, to thrill her by piloting us both on a journey that always has new and more challenging destinations”

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